A phobia is generally a fear that has gotten out of control. It is a persistent, irrational fear of a specific object, activity or situation that leads to a compelling desire to avoid it. A phobia can illicit many types of undesired reactions or behaviours in an individual, creating much discomfort, affecting and restricting a persons life and enjoyment in debilitating ways.
But what if you could be free of your fear?
It’s that time of the year again! 2016 gone, 2017 just beginning, a fresh start just like last year? New years resolutions being made again!
For many of us these resolutions do not stick and we just fall back into that old repeat mode. We set out with great intentions but a few weeks in that new year’s buzz and motivation has faded, procrastination starts to set in, and we end up right back where we started.
Huw is a friend I have known since infant’s school, and over the last couple of years he had a set back in his well being. Huw had heart arrhythmia issues, which he was receiving medical treatment for, but recently he had a bigger set back still when he suffered a small stroke. A blood clot had gone to the right side of his brain causing some loss of co ordination to his left side.
Earlier this month we held a workshop with Australian hypnotherapist Brett Cameron; Be the best version of you. It was such a great evening and an empowering experience for the many that attended. So we wanted to share some of the things we learned with you.
Dispelling the myths
At LLLY, one of the tools that Steve uses is hypnotherapy. Whilst some clients love this technique to help empower their lives, others can be a bit more skeptical about it.
Re-frame and re-fresh your mind
Labels. They are everywhere! On food, on clothes, on buildings, on you! We apply labels to basically everything in life, but we often forget how it feels to be labelled something ourselves.
What labels are attached to you? Are you a mother? A father? What label does your career give you? And, more importantly, what labels make you feel uncomfortable?
Create the right mind set to achieve your goals
Here at LLLY, we’ve been glued to our TV screens watching all the amazing athletes that have participated in the Olympic and Paralympic games. How amazing have these games have been for Team GB? It’s been an emotional roller coaster, full of highs and lows, successes and disappointments, hopes and heartbreaks. Some athletes achieved what they were aiming for, others were left wanting.
Are you too hard on yourself?
People today often put a lot of pressure on themselves to become “successful”. The problem is, we never really stop to look at what success means for us – success is actually an individual concept and one that can be defined differently by every person. In today’s blog post, we want to look at how we think society is looking at success in the wrong way and how you can be successful in everything that you do.
See things from another point of view
Do you know that everything you think about has a perspective? And that this perspective is something that you’ve created? For example, you hate your awful job. Well, the fact that you think your job is awful is a story you tell yourself – it’s a perspective you have created (yes, really!). Perspectives are shaped by our internal chit-chat – all that stuff that we keep in our head and which gets worse and worse as we think about it.
As we highlighted in our newsletter this month (which you can view here). Steve is now the first person in Wales to register as a Dementia Therapy Specialist through hypnotherapy.
In this blog post, we wanted to bring you a bit more information about dementia and what you can do to both look after yourself and help to improve the symptoms of those who live with it.
The Importance of Being Vulnerable I’ve been reading some really inspiring blog posts recently and all of them seem to focus on the theme of vulnerability. But being vulnerable is not a very “British” thing to do. Our culture seems to focus on vulnerability as a weakness: we never ask for help and never talk about the things that are really affecting us. Instead we keep it all bottled up, put on a brave face and keep a stiff upper lip. Never let the outside world know there’s something the matter, right? Wrong!
See the magic in the mundane
In January of this year, I was lucky enough to get to listen to Gabrielle Bernstein at her 2-day seminar. Gabby is a motivational speaker, life coach and New York Times best-selling author. She had so many wise things to say, but one really sticks out. Gabby told the audience to “look at things as if for the first time” and I have taken this with me ever since.
What do you truly value?
On a chilly winter’s day this January, I was asked a really strange question that nobody had ever asked me before. This person didn’t ask me what job I did or where I lived. They simply said to me “What are your 5 most important values?”
Well…I was stumped. I didn’t know where to begin as I didn’t even know if I had any values. It was a real light bulb moment and one that I wanted to explore more. And I did!
Self-Love Starts With You
Do you struggle with accepting compliments or recognising the things that you’re good at? That’s because, for most of us, our innermost belief is that “I’m not good enough”. Our minds often add to this thought, saying, “I don’t do enough” or “I don’t deserve this.” Does this sound like you? If it does, keep reading to find out how to quiet these thoughts. This is a practice called self-love and it helps us live happy, prosperous, joyful and happy lives.
Visualise Your Dream Life
Here at LLLY, we have been delving into the practice of visualisation. Visualisation is where you take a few moments to imagine anything and everything that will make you happy or bring you success in life. It highlights the power of your mind and shows that it could be possible for us to program our mind and body to act in certain ways just by imagining it!
Are you listening properly?
How often do you feel like you’re not being listened to properly? I often find myself getting annoyed at my husband if I’m talking to him and he’s on his phone and I just know he’s not paying attention to me. I then had a sudden realization that I often don’t listen properly to him. In this world of technology, it’s so easy for us to get lost online and not focus on those who are actually with us. So here are a few tips to help you to truly listen to someone. You never know what effect good listening could have on someone else.
How affirmations can help you live the life you love
Recently you may have heard of lots of people using “affirmations” in their every day lives. Just looking on Instagram or Facebook, your feed may be swarmed with positive quotations and feel-good pictures. So, do affirmations really work and should you use them?
The Stress Epidemic
Stress. It’s such a common word. Almost everyone uses it these days – from young children at school all the way to adults and the elderly. For some reason, stress has become commonplace in today’s society and almost a new epidemic of the Western world.
We feel stress from various factors in our lives. We are surrounded by situations at work, with our families, in our relationships, even while driving or commuting. All these can contribute to affect us on a physical and emotional level.
Find out about the power of gratitude
So I know that you might be thinking that we’re crazy people trying to sell you ‘magic rocks’, but I promise you we’re not! Just hear us out.
Gratitude stones have been around for a while and the way they work is so simple, but effective. First of all, let me just explain to you why and how being grateful is so great.
Fizzle out those fizzy drinks from your life
Recently, Love Life Love You has received several requests from people asking us to help them with their addiction to fizzy drinks, especially diet coke. This got us thinking about this type of sugar addiction and why people often find themselves reaching for that can of coke rather than a healthy drink.
Making meditation accessible to everyone
Meditation can bring to mind some funny images for people. Maybe you think of Buddhist monks chanting on a hill, hippies sitting in a circle or maybe you even think that people who meditate are just downright bonkers.
Here at Love Life Love You, we want to help you redefine that image. We would be lying if we say that we “meditate” in the true sense (like those Buddhist monks we see sitting in silence). But we do practice moments of relaxation in the day where we focus on our breath and turn our attention inwards, to ourselves.
Love Life Love You works in connection with Mental Health Awareness Week
On Friday 13 May, Love Life Love You held three workshops at GE Aviation Limited in Nant Garw on the topic of mindfulness. We were invited to hold these workshops in connection with Mental Health Awareness Week and were delighted to have the opportunity to bring mindfulness to the workplace.
Children experiencing nighttime anxiety
One of my recent clients Aaliyah (age 6) was having trouble sleeping at night, suffering with bad dreams and anxiety about kidnappers and burglars and bad guys. She could not sleep alone any length of time without being with her mum. This was a persistent fear had been going on for a while, her mum had tried just about everything she could think of but nothing seemed to work. Night after night, Aaliyah would have trouble going to sleep or wake up with bad dreams and anxious thoughts. Needless to say both Aaliyah and her mum were in need of a good night’s sleep.
My journey to becoming a master in Ericksonian Hypnotherapy
As a holistic practitioner I am always looking to practice and improve my knowledge and techniques. A few months ago I took part in a course in Thailand to become a master practitioner in Ericksonian Indirect Hypnosis; created by American psychiatrist Milton Erickson; who is considered to be the father of modern hypnotherapy and a large influence on NLP (Neuro-linguistic programming).
A Thunderclap has been created to help spread the word about #PaulsPledge a campaign led by Paul Pugh, who was the victim of an unprovoked and vicious attack which left him having to learn how to walk and talk again. Paul is campaigning to encourage people to walk away from a fight, to think twice about starting a fight, and to call time on violent crime.