Self-Love Starts With You


Do you struggle with accepting compliments or recognising the things that you’re good at? That’s because, for most of us, our innermost belief is that “I’m not good enough”. Our minds often add to this thought, saying, “I don’t do enough” or “I don’t deserve this.” Does this sound like you? If it does, keep reading to find out how to quiet these thoughts. This is a practice called self-love and it helps us live happy, prosperous, joyful and happy lives.


What is self-love?


Self-love is about accepting yourself as you are. It is about realising that we are all unique and brilliant, and that we have something to offer the world. Self-love helps us become confident in our own skin. It makes us feel complete and is something, which only you can gift to yourself.


Self-love is a continuous practice and you should try and focus on it every day. Taking time out for you is not selfish. When we fill up the well of self-love in ourselves, we can then let it overflow and pour out to those around us.


But it is a long and difficult process – think of a flower bursting up out of its seed and through the soil. This is you on your self-love journey. It’s not meant to be easy. It’s hard for us to recognise our strengths and witness ourselves from a positive viewpoint. But you can do it!


Self-love isn’t selfish


Self-love does not mean vanity, arrogance or being stuck up. It is about having a great respect for yourself and a gratitude for the miracle of your body and your mind. And self-love works: when we really love ourselves, everything in our life works. It’s as if little miracles are everywhere!


If you have a moment, try and answer these questions as honestly as you can. After you’ve written the answers, reflect on the words staring back at you from the page. There is no right or wrong, this exercise simply brings you a sense of awareness of where you are now on your self-love journey.


  1. What is love for you?
  2. What love do you need right now?
  3. How do you practise self-love?
  4. What could you do for yourself every day to practise self-love and to honour yourself? Could you go for a walk, or read a book, or spend more time with your children?
  5. How much do you love yourself?


You can change your thoughts


No matter how you answered the above questions, just remember that a thought is a thought that can be changed. As we often repeat at LLLY, remember that when you are feeling down and thinking negative thoughts, these are the thoughts your own mind has created! The power is in the present moment. When you catch yourself thinking negatively about yourself just say the phrase “THIS BRAIN IS HAVING A THOUGHT” over and over, and it will disappear.


Don’t attach yourself to harmful thoughts. Let them go – imagine putting them in a balloon and letting them float away. Bring yourself back to your positive point of view. You really are great.


Using affirmations on your self-love journey


Whenever you remember and throughout the day, repeat the affirmation I APPROVE OF MYSELF. You should be repeating this 300 – 400 times. Put it out there, even if you don’t believe it. Just by saying it shows you are willing to continue (or even embark) on your journey of self-love and the sparks will start flying! For more information about affirmations, have a look at our blog post about them here.


It’s a slow process


If this is new to you it may sit a little bit uncomfortably at first. But keep trying. You can do it! And if you’re really struggling make sure you book an appointment with Steve. He is a wizard at helping you to truly and completely love yourself!

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